Beginner’s Guide to BDSM: Essential Terms & Etiquette
Starting your journey into BDSM can feel overwhelming, but understanding the basics makes it much easier (and safer). Here’s what every beginner should know:
Key BDSM Terms
- Dominant (Dom/Domme): The person who takes control in a scene.
- Submissive (Sub): The person who gives up control.
- Switch: Someone comfortable in both dominant and submissive roles.
- Safeword: A pre-agreed word to stop or pause play instantly.
- Aftercare: Emotional and physical care after a BDSM session.
Etiquette for Newcomers
- Respect Boundaries: Never push someone past their comfort zone.
- Communicate Clearly: Discuss interests, limits, and safewords before play.
- Be Honest: Share your experience level and ask questions.
- Stay Safe: Learn about risk-aware consensual kink (RACK) and safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) principles.
Conclusion
BDSM is about trust, respect, and mutual pleasure. Start slow, educate yourself, and always prioritize consent and safety.